Here’s a dynamic you can change with your Transformational Leadership. I learned in my ancient wisdom training that as a leader you can make great strides in employee development and help people develop into their potential by eliminating this pattern of human behavior.
This was taught to me as the triangle of disempowerment but I consider it the Bermuda Triangle of leadership and employee development. Meaning some leaders and employees get lost in it and never come out.
This triangle of roles people play contains so many dysfunctional patterns of human behavior that we won’t be able to discuss them all in this short post so my goal with the video is to increase your awareness about them and provide you with a good start to eliminate them from your workplace.
There are three roles in the triangle of disempowerment. They are the victim, perpetrator and rescuer. Here’s how this works…
The victim rarely takes responsibility for their life. Everything happens to them. They draw the perpetrator and rescuer into their life so they can continue to be the victim and avoid taking responsibility for creating their life. To avoid becoming empowered! At work this looks like the person who is always blaming others or outside circumstances for things not going according to plan.
The perpetrator is the person who participates in this dynamic by wronging the victim in some way. At work this is the type of person who seeks to get ahead at other people’s expense. They climb the ladder by crawling over other people or throwing them off the ladder all together.
The rescuer is the person who can be drawn into this scenario to assist the victim. To help them. Often this begins with good intentions but it disempowers the victim by subconsciously telling them they need to be rescued. It’s easy for the rescuer to get seduced into elevating themselves at the expense of the victim. At work this is where the rescuer steps in to help the victim get something done they needed help with.
Where this dynamic goes wrong is the victim begins to use the rescuer instead of standing on their own two feet and the rescuer feeds their ego. Eventually most rescuers will grow weary of the work of saving the victim and they will stop or even throw them under the bus. The victim responds by turning them into the next perpetrator!
As a leader you can greatly increase productivity, morale and employee development by identifying the people on your team, and in your organization, that are trapped in this triangle of disempowerment and develop a plan to remove them by leading them into being empowered.
In some cases a whole department could be in victim mode by seeing themselves as victims of another department. Worst case scenarios are where the workforce see themselves as victims of leadership.
Leave a comment about where you see the victim, perpetrator and rescuer operating within your team or organization and what you’re going to do about it.
Until next time…Lead with a Commanding Presence